Sexuality & Marriage
Straight Talk

With all the talk about sexuality and marriage, it only seemed right that I have an article on this topic. This is especially with all the distortion that goes on in the world about these two things.

Keep in mind that the people I am addressing on this topic are Christians, biblical born-again Christians. The natural man/woman is just not going to get what I am talking about here. And I absolutely have no desire to offend anyone and will not feel offended in the least if they disagree with me. We all have our own beliefs. Also, I want to be clear that homosexuality is not the ultimate sin, rather it is just the topic of this page. It is not any sin other than the sin of rejecting Jesus Christ (till death) that keeps a person from heaven.

So, now let's begin:

The bible is very simple on the topic of sexuality and marriage. It says marriage is between one man and one woman. We see this in Genesis where scripture says, "Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created." Then we see in the book of Matthew, Jesus saying, "Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh." This is very clear, one man with one woman.

The bible shows us that any sexual activity outside of a marriage is wrong. Even when men had more than one wife, scripture showed that to not work out well. And clearly more than two people are not going to become one, as we see what Jesus said. Also, two people of the same gender are not what scripture speaks of for marriage. But today some state governments are perverting marriage and allowing that which is not true marriage to take place and handing out licenses for such. --Personally, I think it is wrong that anyone needs a license to marry. I mean, seriously!!!  

I have come to believe that there should be no such thing as a marriage license. Marriage is a private thing and only those who wish to participate should do so (this means no forcing businesses to participate.) All the government should do is recognize that two people make the claim to be married and then just document that claim and give all the benefits (legally) that go with such a claim. If the government is not going to do it God's way, then it should not do it at all. In other words, I don't believe our government should say what is and is not a legal marriage. Imagine if we could just get our government out of the business of marriage and to respect the rights of businesses to say no if they choose to say no to being part of any marriage that goes against their personal beliefs. And don't push it on children in public schools. Just teach regular things in school, not personal things. And no, I do not believe public school teachers should be teaching public school children the bible. Really? Seriously? That would be the state teaching the bible. NO!

I really do not care if two people of the same sex/gender want to claim to be married. That's not my business, as long as they don't try to make it my business. I don't push my beliefs on others and don't want their beliefs pushed on me. It's called respect for the person, not the person's beliefs if those beliefs go against our own beliefs. I lived for decades next door to a woman who was a liberal. She knew I am a conservative. We got along just fine, because we respected each other. One day I asked her if she felt I was bad for not being okay with homosexuality, that I can love the person, but not what the person does. Her response to me was that if I said I was okay with homosexuality, that I would be a hypocrite, because my beliefs go against it. She was also a Catholic and knew that I disagree with Catholicism, even though half my family I came from were/are Catholics. She and I respected each other. That's how it worked so well for us. And that is true respect for a person, when you can respect a person, you do not agree with on such big issues. It is easy to respect those you agree with. The test is can you respect who you don't agree with. --Note: The neighbor woman I spoke of here, has a brother who is a homosexual and she was always understanding that I could not attend events of hers that he was there with his other person. Also note that when their father died, I hugged everyone, including her homosexual brother. I just do not want people to think I hate homosexual people. That is just not true. I love them and hope they come to believe on Jesus Christ and come out of that lifestyle, just as I am certain homosexuals hope that some day I will believe as they believe and some day be okay with their lifestyle. --Keep in mind, we all think we are right.

Let's continue:

Marriage is a beautiful thing between two Christians who do it God's way. When two Christians come together and make a life together it is going to be rough and they are going to spend time fighting and crying. But they will also have good times, loving times, times where they really feel that oneness with each other. And marriage is not all about sex. Yes, sex is a great thing in a marriage. But there is far more to marriage than sex. And no, I do not believe that God meant anything goes in the marriage bed, when He said it is undefiled. I believe He was meaning that sex is not a sin in the marriage bed. I don't believe He was meaning we could do disgusting perverted things in bed that cause harm.

Keep in mind that scripture tells both the husband and the wife to submit to one-another. Then scripture tells the woman the same thing again and goes on to tell the man to love his wife as Jesus loves the church. This scripture is meaning exactly what it says. Couples should not make more or less of it than it says. Submit to each other. Yes, that means wives too. And husbands, die to yourself and do what is right for your wife, love her with all that is in you and begin with loving God before all else.

In a true biblical Christian marriage there are three. There is the husband, the wife, and the Lord. Married Christian couples should not forget about the Lord. There is no better way to be close to each other than to study God's word together and pray and praise the Lord together. Prayer for blessings on the marriage are a wonderful thing. Actually, a good way to know if what you are doing or about to do sexually in your marriage is okay with God to do, is to see if you can actually ask God to bless it. If you cannot even get those words out of your mouth about something you are getting ready to do, then do not do whatever that something is. There is your answer. Let God be who you go to about everything.